Men's Group
The ASA Men's Group is a peer-led community created for adult male adoptees 18+ with ties to Latin America through birth or birth parent(s). As part of the larger ASA community, our goal is to provide a space where men can explore their adoption journeys together with honesty, mutual respect, and support.
Monthly Zoom Calls (18+): Conversations centered on adoption, identity, relationships, personal growth, and other topics relevant to the male perspective. Meeting times rotate monthly to include members across time zones. Zoom links are shared privately via Google Calendar one week before each call.
Meet the Facilitators
David Heinzerling was born in Asuncion, Paraguay in 1989 and adopted in 1990. He was adopted by a single mother and raised in Manhattan, New York. At 18 years old, David found his biological family and has been in reunion with them ever since. He has been to Paraguay five times and is in touch with his native culture. In 2026, David went to see his family in Paraguay in the city of Lambaré. On the same trip in 2026 he proudly reclaimed his Paraguayan citizenship.
After a handful of friends reached out to David asking for help with their adoption journeys, he realized he could help them. After some introspection he realized he could help the larger latin adoptee community as well. In the name of his two male friends who passed away and more introspection, he realized the need for a latin adoptee men’s group with a group of ASA leaders. With the help of ASA, the formation of the ASA men’s group initiated. David looks forward to representing ASA with its mission and looks forward in bringing community to those that need it.
David Heinzerling
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Tim Kurz
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Tim was adopted from Bogotá, Colombia to Baltimore, Maryland in 1979 at just 10 days old, Tim grew up navigating questions surrounding his self-identity. These frustrations led him back to Colombia in 2006, where he lived, worked, and traveled for four years. However, despite learning the language and immersing himself in the diverse culture of Colombia, he realized he remained a foreigner, unable to fully bridge the gap of not having grown up there.
The primal wound of adoption and abandonment created an ongoing narrative of, “I do not relate to anyone,” “I do not fully understand who I am, so no one else truly understands me either.”
Recognizing the need for a community of adoptees with shared experiences influenced Tim’s desire to lead a men's group. Today, he is honored to co-create a supportive, welcoming space specifically for adopted men who share roots in Latin America.
Ben was adopted from Brazil to Australia at 13 months old. Growing up, I spent much of my childhood and early adulthood navigating questions of identity, belonging and imposter syndrome, often feeling caught between cultures and unsure of where I truly fit.
It wasn’t until my 20s and 30s that I began feeling a stronger pull towards my Brazilian heritage and started exploring my culture and searching for my biological family. In 2024, that search led to something I never thought possible — connecting online with my biological siblings in Brazil.
My journey as an adoptee is still unfolding, but connecting with the adoptee community through ASA has been an important part of that journey. It has opened the door to conversations, experiences and perspectives that I simply hadn’t found anywhere else.
I’m excited to be part of this Latin American adoptee community — a space where we can connect, share our experiences, explore identity and culture from the male perspective, and have the conversations that sometimes can be missed in the wider communities.
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